S.e.x is great, nowadays women are more open to letting us know when we do them good and when we mess it up. The last thing you would want as a guy is your guy talking about your poor performance at the saloon or during them girls nights out. That is why you just have to be on your A-Game because rumours of poor performance spread real quick my guy lol. Sometimes during s.e.x, either when trying something new or when we caught up in the moment, it can get embarrassing. In a thread on Reddit, women have been kind enough to share the mistakes guys do in bed that can end up killing the mood.
For instance, finding the cl!toris is only half of the equation: it turns out some men need to work on their technique once they’re down there. A definite not-to-do: “Treating the cl!t like they’re scrubbing a pan clean.”
As one woman explains: “Rubbing in between the vag!na and cl!t up and down (rubbing against the urethra), you’re giving me cystitis and it doesn’t feel good.” There’s a lot of misinformation floating around out there pertaining to female anatomy.
“Never take p0rn as truth,” says another commenter. This is sage advice; assuming that your partner is into everything you’ve seen online, and is even physically capable of doing all that stuff, might lead to disappointment. P0rn also often skips right over the f0replay-and-lube portion of events, which are pretty crucial.
Another woman expresses frustration “when I tell them to keep going and I like it and they start to speed up or change their tempo… I liked it the way it was before.” She’s not alone. “If I moan, that doesn’t mean to switch into rabbit f#ck mode,” states another commenter. “Stay the course mother f#cker.”
This complaint isn’t just about pace, but about knowing whether or not partners are cognizant of each other’s verbal and non-verbal cues. Communicating your own needs and responding to the needs of your partner is the key to great s.e.x.
“Be honest with yourself as to what you like and need,” says one commenter, recalling how a previous partner would get in his head about what he thought he should be doing. “Was with a guy who NEEDED to finish by hand, but desperately didn’t want it to be that way. He would just keep going until it started to hurt me, and then feel ashamed. I have no problem you taking matters into your own hands while I help in other ways!”
On that note, another woman’s advice to guys when it comes to the bedroom is to simply stop overthinking it. “Dude, it is not always going to be seeing stars and sh!t,” she says. “Sometimes, it’s a 10-minute stress releaser and that’s fine.”