Johannesburg – What took place between Mbongeni Ngema, Leleti Khumalo, Xoliswa Nduneni-Ngema and plenty of different girls of Sarafina!?
The guide Heart of A Strong Woman – From Daveyton to Sarafina: My Story of Triumph, tells Nduneni-Ngema’s tale, now the CE of Joburg City Theatres. The guide is written by way of Fred Khumalo.
“This is no angry book. I just want to tell my story. I have healed somehow, and now, I feel is the time to tell my story,” she stated, chatting with the Sunday Independent at the genesis of her enjoy.
In the guide, Nduneni-Ngema alleges that her ex-husband raped her at a Durban lodge 8 months when they separated over his extramarital affair with Leleti.
Before the rape, she says, Ngema had threatened to damage her jaw with a spanner. He additionally allegedly beat her so exhausting that she collapsed when she attempted to go away the room tomorrow.
The rape allegedly happened at the day Ngema picked her up from paintings, apologised for the affair and begged for them to re-ignite their love.
However, she would have none of it and informed him she was once carried out. They had a heated argument, and then Ngema requested that they have got dinner.
After dinner, she requested to be taken house, however Ngema is claimed to have develop into violent, preventing the auto at the freeway, accusing her of dishonest and perilous to hit her with a spanner.
After calming down and hanging the spanner again within the boot, Ngema allegedly drove to his lodge the place he demanded intercourse. She stated Ngema grabbed her and attempted to take her garments off when she refused.
“What happened to me thirty years ago is a story that needed to be told. It’s a story that was in my heart for a long time. It is one I told to my children, my family and people close to me.
“In 2018, I had time to breathe, and I decided to work on my story, and someone referred me to Fred Khumalo, and we took the time to visit all the places from back then that I occupied, and he was able to walk in my shoes and see where I grew up.”
She says it felt proper to post it in August because it was once related to take action. All she sought after to do was once ruin the silence.
“I became a zombie. And being a zombie meant I was powerless. My marriage brought me the highs and lows.”
One of the teachings she has discovered from her lifestyles tale is that once a wedding doesn’t paintings, one must go away.
“If your marriage becomes abusive – mentally, physically or emotionally, it is time to leave. If you stay, you are giving your partner license to hurt you more. I also need to forgive the younger me for allowing the abuse to happen. I need to reconcile the younger version of me with who I am now.”
In bankruptcy 8 of her guide, Nduneni-Ngema recounts how she beat up actress Leleti Khumalo after studying about her affair along with her then-husband Mbongeni Ngema.
“I fell on Leleti. I beat her. I beat her. I was careful not to hit her on her face. I was also careful not to hit her on her legs. She had to go on stage and perform the following day. So with my stick, I concentrated on her body,” she writes.
Reflecting again at the enjoy, Nduneni-Ngema stated she does now not have a courting with Khumalo, and nonetheless must reconcile along with her.
“But I am hoping that one day we will be able to reconcile, together with the other cast members. We need to have a facilitated truth and reconciliation of our own, where we are able to talk and hash things out. We need to start talking about issues so we can all heal. The entire cast needs healing.”
When requested if she has discovered peace with Mbongeni, she says now not but.
“When you find peace, you find peace within yourself first. I am yet to find peace with him. I need to find out why he had to do all those things to me. I need that truth and reconciliation session, with not just him, but with all the cast members”.
In conclusion, all she says she sought after to do with this guide was once to inform her fact and empower extra girls.
“The book should empower you. If there is anything the reader should take away from this, it is to find peace and to not let your hardships determine your future. Here I am, still standing.”
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