S.e.x is a beautiful thing meant to be enjoyed by both parties, however, oftentimes only one party is pleasured and the other is left wanting. The majority of women have never had an 0rganism according to research. Premature ejac#lation is as bad as global warming to many women as this spoils their days. Every woman wants real action in bed, most ladies complain ”He’s generous in bed when it comes to paying me attention and performing 0ral s.e.x really but does not last long – a few minutes at most. I don’t know how to bring it up or how to deal with this problem”. Any advice? Well here are some of the things you should try doing tonight
1. HAVE HIM TAP INTO LOWER LEVELS OF AR0USAL.
Men who struggle to last long during s.e.x are so highly aroused, they can’t prevent ejac#lation from happening until it’s too late. “To be able to last longer during s.e.x, a man needs to learn how to hang out at lower levels of ar0usal for long periods of time.”
2. TRY A PEN!S RING.
Some guys do find that trying a pen!s ring helps them last longer, so it’s worth a try. pen!s rings work by restricting the blood flow into the shaft of the pen!s, which can help maintain a stronger er3ction.
3. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS.
Practicing mindfulness and breathing can also help slow ejac#lation down. Bonus: Practicing mindfulness outside the bedroom can only help your game in bed too. “Use an app for guided meditation once a day, for example, or try mindful eating, where you focus on foods’ flavors and textures while avoiding distractions, such as your phone.
4. FOCUS ON THE OTHER PARTNER’S PLEASURE TO TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF.
If things are getting too hot and heavy for the pen!s-, August recommends taking a step back and focusing the attention on the other partner’s pleasure instead. “When you stop what you’re doing once you’re super close to 0rgasm, then chill for a bit, then start again (sort of like s.e.x.u.a.l interval training),” ar0usal tends to skyrocket, explains August.
5. TRY TRAINING FOR IT.
Seriously! If this premature finishing situation doesn’t stem from a medical issue for either one of you, it’s always possible to just try…having more s.e.x. For some couples, it’s a matter of s.e.x.u.a.l endurance conditioning. Think of it the same way you’d go to a gym to get stronger. This is especially helpful if the partner in question doesn’t ma3turbate very often. I’m aware this sounds incredibly uns.e.x.y, but taking some of the novelty out of it can extend the time before an orgasm feels inevitable.
6. HAVE HIM INCORPORATE TOYS.
Sure, this might feel like “cheating” a little, but that shouldn’t matter when it comes to making sure you both 0rgasm. If he can’t last long enough for you to finish, wait until he’s close but not there yet and let him tag out and use a vibrator on you. Then he can tag back in when you’re both close to the finish line.
7. SPEND MORE TIME ON FOREPLAY.
Yes, it might make the intercourse part a little shorter, but spending more time on foreplay so you’re more warmed up will extend the s.e.x session on the whole and make sure you’re both satisfied.
8. TRY SOMETHING NEW AND OUT OF THE ORDINARY IN BED.
When you’ve been with the same partner for a while, your routine s.e.x positions can make his body anticipate coming and thus come to a lot sooner. New positions and sensations will distract him and make him last longer.
9. TRY EDGING.
When he’s about to 0rgasm, have him stop and wait about a minute or so before going back at it. Everyone has an 0rgasmic point of no return. Edging trains his body to delay that point so he can spend more time on the edge (and more time pleasing you).
10. HAVE HIM DO KEGELS, YOGA, AND PILATES.
All of these exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which help him control 0rgasm spasms. (And yeah, dudes can do Kegels too.)
11. TRY PERPENDICULAR S.E.X POSITIONS.
This is technically an outercourse position, but it’s a way to avoid the most sensitive areas of the pen!s (specifically, the underside of the head, where a lot of the nerves are located). “Don’t actually enter her, but let her glide back and forth along the top of the shaft,” says Kerner. Spoon or face each other on your sides, and it can still be enjoyable without making him rush to 0rgasm.
13. GRAB THICKER C0NDOMS.
You should always practice safe s.e.x, so just switch up your condom purchases and get your partner something a little thicker (and if for whatever reason you aren’t using c0ndoms, using one will probably dull sensations for him as well as keep you both protected). Keep in mind that it’s still important to make sure you find something that fits right for him. And never double-up on c0ndoms. Double-bagging can lead to issues, like, say, losing two c0ndoms in your vag!na.