It is quite surprising that only 25% of women actually come during s.e.x regardless of how gifted you think you are in your pants. There is a need for some extra 0ral action on her cl!toris if you are going to properly pleasure your partner. Cl!toral st!mulation is one of the most effective ways to make your woman cl!max. You would be surprised how packed the cl!toris is with nerve endings making it one of the most sensitive er0genous zones on a woman’s body.
The cl!toris around 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the number you have in your pen!s, FYI. So what can you do to give her a proper mind-blowing cl!toral 0rgasm? Well, for starters, make sure you where to find the cl!toris: at the top of the v#lva, just under the spot where the inner lab!a meet. The cl!toris also extends up to 5 inches inside the body—in fact, experts are beginning to recognize that the so-called “G-spot” is linked to the cl!t—but for today, we’ll focus on that rosebud-shaped spot at the apex of the lab!a.
And now, to st!mulate the cl!toris. Because the cl!t is so sensitive, 67% of women prefer st!mulation in or around the cl!toris, not directly on it. If you’re not sure what she prefers, remember this universal piece of advice: ask her!
Surprise your partner tonight with one—or all—of these cl!toral st!mulation tricks, using not just your tongue, but also your lips, fingers, and toys. And don’t forget: there are a number of s.e.x positions where you can reach around and st!mulate her cl!t with your fingers or a vibrator while pen3trating her. There’s no reason why pen3tration and cl!t st!mulation have to be separate; the two can (and should!) exist in perfect harmony.
1. Suck and Nibble
Instead of just licking her, use your lips and tongue to suck on her cl!t.
“The entire v#lva consists of sensitive nerve fibers,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. “So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the cl!t and lightly nibble on her inner and outer lab!a, or suck a little on lab!a, will st!mulate the nerve fibers.”
The sucking will also lead to increased vasocongestion, or more blood flow, to the v#lva and the cl!toris—”like a little vacuum pump,” Kerner says.
2. Draw circles
When researchers from Indiana University surveyed 1,055 women about their favorite s.e.x techniques, 3 out of 4 women said they love it when you trace little circles on or around her cl!t.
You can use your tongue, your finger, or two fingers—or all of the above.
While you’re drawing those circles, try “hinting”—focusing on the area near her cl!toris, and only occasionally coming in for a direct touch. In that same Indiana University survey — 7 out of 10 women said they were into this technique.
“Use one finger flicking all around the cl!toris, but not directly on it,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author and founder of sExpert.com. “To bring your partner to 0rgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a ste ady consistent stroke.”
4. Pick a Side
When it comes to cl!toral stimulation, 4 out of 10 women have a preferred side, the same survey found. Ask her if there’s a side she likes better—and if she’s not sure, experiment on both.
5. Use your imagination.
When you’re flicking your tongue over her cl!toris, imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, says Cadell, “alternating between up and down.” Next, “go into the windshield wiper move of using your tongue to go side-to-side.”
6. Don’t Forget the Shaft
While a lot of attention is spent on the tip of the cl!toris—the part located at the top of the v#lva—it also has two “legs” that extend up to five inches inside the body, known as the “shaft.”
“Slide your fingers to either side of her cl!toral shaft,” Dr. Cadell explains. “Pull and push the cl!toral hood across the cl!toris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.”